Sex, Drugs, and Working Moms: Sexy Senses
Ladies, your body will deceive you. If pornography happens to offend, or even repulse you, the bitter truth is that your body will react to it involuntarily. This is within moderation, of course. If something is violent or disgusting, your ethical and moral compass will reject it, but if it is just bodies on bodies doing what natural human bodies were meant to do, you will become visually stimulated and physically aroused. Like it or not. We are, after-all, animals, and there is no greater reminder of this than the act of sex. The point is, you may be surprised by your body’s response to specific stimuli, to which you have no control over.
If you happen to be someone who is uncomfortable watching porn but still considers yourself a sexual being who is looking to spice up your intimacy without having to go all ‘Fifty Shades of Grey,’ you have come to the right place. There are ways to use your own senses to tap into your true erotic self. Sight is just one of the five senses. Many of the others are often overlooked, but are just as effective by means of seduction, stimulation, and reaching full sensory ecstasy.
Some senses have a duality. There is the act of giving and receiving. This is an important point to keep in mind. Sound for instance, not only is it erotic to hear the sounds of pleasure coming from your partner but it can be just as arousing making the noises and hearing yourself. Have you ever set out to fake an orgasm because you were too tired or too preoccupied to become too invested and then unexpectedly had one? My guess is that in your efforts to convince your partner of your participation and help them along, you inadvertently turned yourself on. What if you set out to do just that from the beginning?
Moms in particular, regardless if you are working or a domestic GM, tend to suppress their pleasure potential by measuring or silencing the sounds of passion for fear of little ears listening. This I understand and sympathize with. With the kids down the hall or just on the other side of the wall, not only do you try to be quiet, you have your hearing is on high alert for any sound beyond the bedroom door. This intense distraction is the primary obstacle in the way of your much needed, much deserved full body release. I urge you to find a way, place, or time to let yourself explore sound. You may not need to be loud, but you need the freedom to determine what volume is key to awaken your inner sex goddess. And we are talking about a few minutes. Again, you don’t need a partner. Have ‘them’ take the kids to the park or to gramma’s house. It is important that you reserve this time for yourself on a regular basis. And if you still cannot quiet the stream of thoughts when you are alone, this is where I would suggest a vice. I prefer cannabis, for a multitude of reasons and have an entire episode dedicated to this explanation.
On planned moments of romance, we often consider having something playing in the background. We put on our favorite collection of love songs or call upon the sounds of the babbling brook to engage our sense of sound as part of the ritual of seduction.
There is far more to sound than background noise when it comes to sex. Noises that we often try to mute or mask for fear that others will hear. Sex is noisy. It is physically exerting and should have the natural soundtrack to match the level of play and effort. And I am not just referring to heavy breathing.
Sounds of sex are natural. Don’t suppress sighs of pleasure, groans of wanting, or moans of exhilaration. Instead, let go and allow your hot panting to escalate into speaking your secret desires
Sounds Good
How to sound dirty or talk dirty without feeling dirty.
Talking or sounding dirty does not have to be crude or graphic. It is quite simply the combination of words and their timing. Just saying things that are swirling in your mind could bring your pleasure to a whole new level. Your body will react.
The thrill of saying things never before dared on your tongue, hearing the delicious sounds pass your lips and the response you will surely get from your partner, is too exhilarating not to try.
For the hesitant, blushing first-timers, I suggest you begin when your lips are close to your partner’s ear. That way, they can be whispered. If this is completely out of character for you, what you say does not have to sound as though you are suffering from Trouette’s sydrome. You could just moan. I kid you not. Making pleasurable sounds, just loud enough for you and your partner to hear, while cuddling and caressing will heighten arousal.
Many women will admit that…
…the act of faking an orgasm has itself triggered climax.
Why do you think that is? Because…
erotic sounds, especially your own erotic sounds, are stimulating.
Your body reacts to your own sounds and your partner’s response, whether audible or physical. When your body responds, it seeks pleasure. You will thrive and rock with a willingness to explore and be explored.
As the passion intensifies, so can your sounds. Describe what you like. Not in novel form, just a statement here and there. If the idea of speaking body parts makes you recoil, then don’t say them. Refer to them by ‘you’re’ and ‘I’m.’ Stick to adjectives. ‘You are so hard and smooth.’ See, you could be describing his back or arms. “Your touch drives me crazy.” Or, “I’m so hot for you.”
These words should not be forced; just close your eyes and breathe them.
It is that simple. Nothing I have suggested is too risky.
It took me a long time to say extremely dirty things. The first time I did, my husband reacted so viscerally that I sent him over the edge before I had even warmed up. This only led to a very welcome ‘twice in one night’.
Good luck. Have fun and happy Valentine’s Day.
If what I have recommended is still outside of your comfort zone, consider reading erotica. To yourself is fine, and it may inspire your imagination to grab hold of things you are comfortable saying. But reading it aloud, to or with your partner, brings seduction to a whole new level.
I have an example of erotica tucked away on my website. Find it print out. It is one of our favorites. The pages are in an envelope marked Taxes in my husband’s night stand. Often, he reads it to me. Rarely do we make it all the way through before, well, you know. Or you will soon enough.
Ok, warning, it is cut to hard core. There is no pre amble it starts immediately. This is what I consider full blown smut. It is an example of how words, especially when said aloud, or heard can be arousing. Please do so in the privacy of your own home, alone or in the company of a willing partner.
Have fun.
That concludes ‘Sounds ,’ from the Sex, Drugs, & Working Moms series. Thanks for listening. I’m MLE. Stay tuned next week as I continue self-seduction using your senses. In the meantime, be sure to get yours.
